2 Years

When Monday, April 20th hits, I will have been married for 2 years. 2 YEARS. Do you know how much has happened in the last two years in this world or better yet, in the world of wrestling and video games? Daniel Bryan rose to fame, the PS4 and Xbox One were released, the WWE Network came out, The Undertaker's streak ended, Super Smash Bros was finally released, The Office, Parks and Rec and Dexter all ended, NXT became THE brand as international stars like Prince Devitt, Kenta and Kevin Steen all signed onto to developmental contracts, two ROH stars left different Wrestlemanias as World Champion, I could go on and on! Yes, only I would connect wrestling and video games with my anniversary, thank you very much! Anyway, this post isn't about pro wrestling or video games, it's actually a personal post about my 2 year marriage.

I still remember my wedding day like it was yesterday. The amount of nerves I had, my mind racing with all the things that could go wrong and my anticipation of finally getting alone with my wife. It was a great day and while I didn't want to share the moment by having a nice sized wedding, we did anyway so my wife could be happy. Now that I have the experience of being married, I can honestly say that it's something you can't take lightly. There's a sort of finality of it, like, this is the only person you can be with for the rest of your life. I'm 24 so by standards, I should have a lot of life left to live. That's not really a problem for me or so I thought at first. I never had anyone besides my wife. Robyn was basically my first everything. My first kiss, my first girlfriend, my first lover, the list goes on. Every first you can have romantically with a woman, Robyn took. I don't have anything else to compare her to except my mind. There are pros and cons to each side of the story. If you never had anyone, you don't have the baggage that someone else with multiple ex partners does. I came in fresh and pure. It can also be a bad thing as you wonder what life would have been like had you never gotten married. You know, could you have gotten someone else, stuff like that. The fact of the matter is your mind always comes back to what you have currently because it's what God has given you. Besides, it was Him who put us together in the first place anyway.

Marriage is like a roller coaster. There are many ups and downs, many high moments and many low moments. It's an adventure worth experiencing. If I had to compare a game to my marriage, it would be Dark Souls. Dark Souls is a learning experience. If you don't learn how to survive quick, you're not going to have a good time. You have to know when to play defense or when to play offense. Marriage is the same. When you're married and start living together, you're going to have to get used to the other's habits. Robyn is a TV junkie, I'm a video game junkie. With one television in the room, it doesn't mix well. I have an advantage though because Robyn loves sleep and will sleep after just about anything. Eating, a day out, sneezing, playing a game, whatever. She'll go to sleep. I use that opportunity to sneak in a couple of hard earned gaming hours in before she wakes up. I try not to be a TV hog but when every once in a while, it happens, like when Dark Souls II came out last year. MAN, I was all over that TV. Now with Bloodborne, it's not so bad because our schedules don't allow us to see each other at all basically so whenever I'm home, she's not. It's fun learning each other's habits and how to plan for each one.

The worst thing about being married is my selfishness. I am a selfish guy, I'm sorry. It's really bad. It's to a point where I get upset when things don't go the way that I think they should. If things go off the path that I've envisioned for them, I'll get an attitude. I'm currently playing through Xenoblade on the 3DS. You know how Shulk has visions of the future and they usually tell of a grim fate for some of the characters involved in the story and how he does his best to change them? Well, I'm the opposite of that. Once again, only I can compare games to my real life. Anyway, if I have plans to sit down and game all day and that's disturbed, I'm pissed. One Friday, I worked morning shift and didn't have to go back until Saturday night. Robyn had to work her 2nd job so I had plenty of time to myself to get some gaming in. To my surprise, just when I started to get into one of the games I was playing, can't remember which it was, Robyn pops in and says her shift was cancelled. My mood completely changed, It's not like I wasn't happy to see her, it's just I hate when my plans are changed. To her though, it was like I didn't want to see her. That caused a problem and that was 100% MY fault. I really shouldn't have treated her like that. I'm not the perfect husband, I'm far from it actually. I've never been married or even had a relationship before so all this is new to me and I'm still in the learning process. I also have to learn to spend more time with her. We don't get any time AT ALL now. With our varying schedules and such, we always get to go to church together but that's the only given. We're actually spending our anniversary apart this year as she has to go away for a school trip. It's hard but I know that we'll get the time we need together eventually. It is almost summer movie season so we have to make plans to see Avengers, Fantastic Four, Ant-Man and many others.

Regardless of my imperfections, I truly love Robyn. It's been a fun ride so far and we haven't even started yet. If this were WWE, we would be in NXT, probably as the NXT Champion. We still have yet to live on our own or have any children yet. Once we do that, that's when the real tests of marriage will begin. That's something to look forward to though.

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